💕 Happy Radical Self-Love Day! 💕

Valentine's Day is for Self-Love Practices!

Inside This Edition

• Empowering Quote & Image
• Wise Women’s Wisdom: Loving Your Light
• Experientials (Individual & Community)
• Experiential Reflections
• WW Playlist Recommendation 🎶
• Call to Action
• WW Insiders & Professionals: Dive Deeper
• A Gift for You: Self-Love Affirmation Cards

Included Downloads:

• Loving Giving Tree (Individual)
• Loving Giving Tree (Community)
• Self-Love Affirmation Cards

The more you engage with these materials, the more you strengthen the neural pathways that support nervous system regulation, deepen self-connection, and integrate self-love and self-compassion.

And yes—it gets to be fun, too.

✨ Be sure to scroll all the way to the bottom to access your downloads!

Loving Your Light

There was a moment in women's group that I will never forget.

I asked the Wise Women to reflect upon and share the light they see in themselves.

Silence.

Eyes down. Nervous laughter. Deflection.

When we explored the hesitation, what emerged were familiar narratives:

• I’m not that special.
• I don’t really have any gifts or talents.
• Other people are more impressive.
• If you really knew me…

(Keep in mind: these are brilliant, compassionate, bad-ass women!)

So we shifted.

Instead of asking women to name their own light, I invited them to name the light they see in one another.

What unfolded was profound.

Women who struggled to claim a single strength in themselves became eloquent, generous, and precise when reflecting the gifts of another. Words like steady presence, fierce protector, truth-teller, righteous rager, healer, peaceful warrior, storyteller, raw and real, grounded, brave filled the room.

Many expressed tears receiving what they could not fully claim.

I practiced this same experiential with my own Wise-ass Inner Guard, and they verbalized how they experience me. Their poetic words still ring in my mind and give me the confidence to continue on our collective mission.

Receiving their gifts felt vulnerable.

It also felt radical.

Because self-love is not indulgence.
It is reclamation. It is revolutionary.

Experiential #1: Loving Giving Tree

Download the practice using the links in the section below.

Step 1:

Take a quiet moment to reflect on the light you carry.

Imagine the words or phrases others might offer if they were naming the gifts they see in you. Inside each heart of the Loving Giving Tree download, complete the sentence: I am…

Allow yourself to receive these words without editing, shrinking, or minimizing them.

Step 2:

Then, fill the remaining blank hearts with words that honor the light you intentionally bring into your own life—and into the lives of those fortunate enough to know you.

Step 3:

Pause and reflect:

• What feels easy to claim?
• What feels uncomfortable?
• What narratives arise that try to disqualify your light?

Breathe through them.

Receiving self-love is a practice.

Experiential #2: Community Light Reflection

Download the practice using the links in the section below.

If you’re ready to stretch, invite a few Wise Women in your life to participate.

Send them this:

“I’m practicing receiving the light others see in me. Would you be willing to share 3–5 words or short phrases that reflect the gifts or strengths you see in me?”

When their responses come back:

• Resist the urge to deflect.
• Resist explaining.
• Resist shrinking.

Simply write their offerings into your hearts and complete: I am…

Then sit with it.

Let your nervous system adjust to being seen.

🌿 Wise Women's Reflections

• It was super uncomfortable to receive such kindness!
• It challenged my critical inner voice.
• I felt exposed. Now, I feel seen.
• It increased my imposter syndrome before I started to believe it.
• No one has ever taken the time to reflect my light back to me like this.
• It tapped into something deep in my soul that needed healing.
• I feel more grounded and centered.
• I will remember this for years.

Many realized their resistance wasn’t humility.

It was shame.

And shame dissipates in the light.

🎶 Wise Women Playlists

Created in community with Wise Women, these playlists help you explore an emotional state—or gently shift to a new one—through the healing power of music.
(Click the image to access the playlist.)

Practice receiving your own light and love.

Option #1:

• Read your “I am…” statements aloud.
• Place your hand on your heart. Notice. Sense.
• Color your Loving Giving Tree for one song.
  • Recommended song: My Little Light by Beautiful Chorus
• Soak in the self-love with 3 breaths.

Option #2:

• Print out and cut your affirmation cards and pull one each day this week.
• Breathe in the self-love while you color the image on the card.

Self-love is not vanity.
It is a radical refusal to abandon yourself.

🔥 WW Insiders & Professionals Dive Deeper

Our paid WW Insider & Professional Membership are invited to go deeper into self-love practices–you’ll find more self-love experientials, videos, downloads, and much more wisdom deeper Inside.

Self-Love is a Radical Act: The 2nd ‘S’ of the WISE-ASS Woman’s Way

Happy Radical Self-Love Day! This edition highlights the transformative power of radical self-love as a revolutionary act that challenges the patriarchy. Embracing unconditional self-love frees us from societal pressures and fosters collective empowerment. Inside, explore self-love practices you can apply to your daily life. Plus, check out experientials like “Pull on Your Own Heart Strings” to integrate radical self-love. Let’s chip away at the patriarchy by choosing radical self-love—together!

Inside Wise Women's WisdomSarah Coffman

Inside is where self-love moves from concept to transformation.

If you’re ready to deepen the work, join us Inside.

Because your light was never meant to stay dim.

Download #1: Loving Giving Tree

Download #2: Community Loving Giving Tree

Download #3: Self-Love Affirmation Cards

Sending you love and light. 💕✨

Take exceptional care of yourself!

Sarah

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